More Choices = Greater Growth

Tackling resolutions can be tough, but psychologist Carrie Wilkens suggests a game-changing approach: the “menu of options.” New Year’s resolutions often face low success rates, but the key might lie in offering yourself diverse paths to success.

Wilkens, known for her expertise in behavior change, emphasizes the importance of presenting multiple avenues when encouraging change. Instead of a singular solution, consider providing a menu of options. This approach isn’t just for supporting others; it’s a powerful strategy for keeping your own resolutions. When urging someone to overcome a substance-related challenge, it’s common to suggest a specific program like Alcoholics Anonymous. However, Wilkens argues that limiting individuals to one approach may not yield the best results. Offering various doors to walk through allows flexibility, acknowledging that different methods work for different people.

Applying this concept to personal resolutions, Wilkens advises against pressuring yourself into a rigid routine. Take exercise as an example; forcing five days a week at the gym may set you up for failure. Instead, create a menu of options – explore hiking, biking, or joining a walking group. By diversifying your choices, you’re more likely to find an enjoyable and sustainable way to stay active.

Saving money? Don’t cut out enjoyable expenses entirely. If dining out is a significant expenditure, consider alternatives like reducing your budget for restaurants by 30% or exploring a side hustle to boost savings. The key is to provide yourself with multiple paths to achieve the same goal, increasing the likelihood of success.

Wilkens urges reflection on whether you’re boxing yourself or others into a corner. The beauty of the “menu of options” lies in its adaptability. It’s not about failure; it’s about recognizing that different doors suit different individuals at different times in their journeys.

So, as you embark on your journey to conquer this year’s resolutions, remember to craft a diverse menu of options. Whether it’s changing habits or chasing goals, offering yourself multiple doors to walk through increases your chances of success. Embrace flexibility, appreciate the variety of choices, and let the menu of options be your guide to a transformative year.

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