December 2009 marked my 20th year in social work. This anniversary has led me to reflect on what I’ve learned and how (I hope) I’ve matured in the profession. The idealism of my younger self has morphed into a more resolute state – there’s only so much you can do in the time you have. Sometimes …
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What Got You Here?
"What did you do that got you here, that you can now take responsibility for?” This question is one that has faced many individuals over time. It was the question asked of every new client I saw at the domestic abuser program I led for several years. I worked with batterers/abusers for seven …
The Ties That Bind
It’s extraordinary how much influence our family-of-origin can have on us far into our adulthood. Of course, this influence can be nurturing or toxic. There’s been much said about the effects of bad mothering on the child. This led to a generation (or more) of mothers obsessed with doing the …
