This is how my Facebook profile describes me. What it DOESN’T say is that I’m an over 50, over 200 pound, mother of two daughters, wife of Dougy-Fresh, straight-talking, ass-kicking result-producer who is committed to leaving other people’s lives better than I found them.
I believe that ALL transformation starts with truth-telling, so let me dish some dirt on myself. I’ve been fat my whole life–two years ago I weighed over 350 pounds and I was struggling to find meaning and joy in a life that was killing me from the inside out–NO ONE KNEW, except my family, of course. They lived with my frustration and pain every day. I have always been happy and successful on the outside. However, on the inside, I have struggled with depression, weak mindset, absent self-belief and overwhelming procrastination. Eight years after I beat breast cancer, I hit a low point in my life. My life story prior reads like an extreme Jerry Springer episode: sexual abuse as a child, divorced parents, lifelong struggle with obesity and food addiction, death of one brother to an accidental heroin overdose and, years later, loss of the other one to suicide. I have experienced my share of loss but have pushed through it all with hope, passion and fortitude. I NEVER let any of those experiences define me.
However, in 2015, I was stopped in my tracks. Immobilized. It was time I face my biggest anchor–my weight. It was time I won the battle I’d been waging on and off for decades. This was a defining moment for me. I had to start telling the truth about where I was suffering and it wasn’t pretty. I was miserable being fat. All of the times I “acted as if” I was fine with my “curves” were BS. I wasn’t… and the lack of integrity in my life was beginning to take its toll everywhere: my family, my friends, my business and my health and vitality. We ALL have an anchor like this. Maybe yours isn’t weight; it may be finances, relationships or career. Regardless, NONE of us can reach our true purpose and potential in life until we embrace that anchor, tell the truth about it and work to sever its hold on us. And, once we cut the chain, we soar like a balloon toward possibility and success. I have since lost 85 pounds and am slowly creeping toward my goal weight. Life is a journey, and for me, it’s a marathon–not a sprint–when it comes to my weight.
So, does it matter that I’ve coached HUNDREDS of people in building successful businesses? Is it meaningful that I’ve dedicated my life to leadership, growth and teaching? Is it important that I have a college degree and almost 3 DECADES of coaching experience? Nope. What matters is that I have LIVED it. I know what it takes to be successful. I know what it takes to get untethered from the places in life that feel like cement shoes… and I can help you practice the skills and persist in failure so you can get reach out and grab hold of your dreams.
You were put on this earth for a PURPOSE and I want to help you discover it, define it and make it REAL in the world. I believe that it takes more courage to fail than succeed and the key to success is at the end of a road of many mistakes. Wherever you are stuck in the MUCK of your life, I’ve got a solution for you and I am committed to helping YOU build the BEST version of yourself and your life.